I have learned not to beat up myself over most things, however when it comes to giving people the benefit of the doubt…on this I still struggle and there was a time when I worked with someone for over 4 years, and he’d do and say things and I would have this gut feeling that he doesn’t mean well and shrug it off…I did this for 4 years until I started hearing from my colleagues, and field teams that he was talking ill of me and asking them not to trust my leadership when I got promoted, and a month later I quit work.
Looking back, I’m glad that I was able to quit and I’ve learned not to ignore my gut feeling.
The best thing I did was to cut all ties and ensure that I have no links or ties, with that part of my work, and continue to be intentional about the things I tell myself.
nilichoandika 