Women at Work: A book review of The Good Boss by Kate Eberle Walker

It is International Women’s Day. Women are every where, and in most nations there are events, conferences, demonstrations- all a call for better treatment of women, provision of equal opportunities for women, regard for their welfare, well being and in some of these nations- bills are being pushed in parliaments to protect women in workplaces.

This is not just any day for me, it’s my birthday as well. Every year on the 8th of March I am reminded of two things: One is that I share my birthday with all the women in the world and two, is that I am truly a Pisces.

I was reading The Good Boss by Kate Eberle Walker yesterday- and it was so good that I couldn’t put it down and this is because in writing about bosses and the workplace, she reminded me of my experiences as a woman at work and there’s something she shared from the very beginning that stuck with me:

Women not only need to do their actual work but they also need to think about how they are being perceived as they are doing it.

On the pressure women face at work, The Good Boss by Kate Eberle Walker

About the book:

When it comes to a woman’s day-to-day experience and her career trajectory, one key player has the most significant impact: her boss. If we really want to support women in the workplace, managers must step up.

The good news is that many of the things you can do to be a better manager for women are easy. 

In The Good Boss, CEO and business consultant Kate Eberle Walker offers timely, tactical advice based on her experience coaching managers, as well as the lessons she learned working her own way up the corporate ladder. Eberle Walker outlines nine straightforward rules that any manager can follow to help the women on their team—whether they oversee one, one hundred, or one thousand employees. 

So, what are these 9 rules? How about I share 5 of my absolute truths and favorites!

  1. Call her by her name
  2. Don’t ask “What does your Husband do?”
  3. Speak up so that she doesn’t have to
  4. Be an equal opportunity Asshole
  5. Don’t sit in her chair

These 5 rules are the ones that I kept screaming “YES!!!” when reading because I’ve experienced them more so rule number 3: Speak up so that she doesn’t have to and this was in relation to a boss that was female and she would talk down on all of us, quick to insult and delay salaries if we did not please her!

Talking about what a woman’s spouse does is a complete no-go area. In some instances it is more like you can get away with or afford so much because your spouse does this and that. And while we are at it, if she qualifies for a position, an opportunity- give it to her, give her the chance and in some interviews I lost out on an opportunity because I was single, unmarried and without a child and I remember on particular interview where the man on the panel asked me, “this job comes with a good pay package and if we take you in, give you a two or three year contract, won’t you get comfortable and choose to start a family?”

Finally, rule number 5: don’t sit in her chair is the reminder that if a woman goes away on leave, when she comes back ensure her space is either as she left it or better than she left it. Don’t give someone else her office, chair, position or regard- not unless you are promoting her to a better office, position and holding her in high regard.

The Good Boss is a book that I know will speak to many women in the work place on the challenges we face, and also a must-read for managers- both men and women on ensuring a safe space for women at work.

The book will be available on Amazon stores on March 16th 2021 for $18.99 on Kindle and $24.95. You can pre-order a copy: on this link. Visit the author’s website: here

Can Women Really Have It All? and other questions in Get Over ‘I Got It’ by Elayne Fluker

The first thing that stopped me in my tracks as I was reading this book was a simple statement: “Define what having it all means to you!” Suddenly, the thought of being happy, having peace of mind, being debt free, of good health and so many other things found their way into my list in an attempt to answer this question.

One thing is certain, the author, Elyane Fluker does not want women to suffer under the weight of being SuperWoman and is simply saying, ‘ask for support Sis! It won’t kill you.’

Too many ambitious women strive to accomplish all their goals alone, leading to dangerous levels of stress and anxiety. Learn how a strong support network and meaningful connections are crucial not only to your long-term success, but to your peace of mind.

The book explores various aspects of a woman’s life; finances, career, business, health, relationships, personal development, and one more which I absolutely loved “Impact.” It is this final aspect that in the very first half of the book she asks what impact are you hoping to make? What legacy are you aspiring to?

The book is well paced and each topic builds onto the other and what’s great about this book is that she writes from the view point that any woman reading this is already winning in life. Yes, she writes in such an optimistic tone that you cannot help but truly want to dig in and put in the work, get the support, be vulnerable, form networks that enhance your worth.

I loved reading about relationships and growth and my take-away from that section is knowing who an Anchor and who an Engine is in my life. Anchors just as they serve to keep ships still, these are the people who hold us down, keep us rooted and not all of them are bad, however their vision of us is limited to our experiences together. Engines keep us going, they see the future we ought to live and propel us forward- and it is crucial to identify who is an anchor and who is an engine.

Just like more personal development books, this book is intensive, exploring various aspects, of our lives of the stories we are told as women about work and independence. She asks a question that I am asking myself ever since I read it:

How are you showing up for yourself?

About the Author: Author and podcaster Elayne Fluker believes this mindset is partially responsible for the increase in suicide rates for girls and women and the reason so many women end up depressed, overwhelmed, isolated and unfulfilled. To combat this alarming trend, Fluker helps women learn how to build their own networks, make meaningful connections, and understand how even some of the most successful women in the world, like Oprah Winfrey and Spanx founder Sara Blakely, had tremendous support networks that helped them achieve their dreams.

Get the book: Pre-Order a copy from Amazon

I Lost Me When I Found You by Miss T.N.King

Once in a while, you experience moments that call you out or bring such clarity in your life that you cannot help but sit back, reflect and change your path.

I came across Miss T. N. King’s book, “I Lost Me When I Found You” on Netgalley last week- and I wanted to read it, because for a while there have been blurred lines in my understanding and experience on love, with love and for love.

About the book: Have you ever lost yourself? In a candid and inspiring call to action, Miss T.N. King invites every woman who has felt depleted, hopeless, or “not enough” to reconnect and uncover her true, divine self—known as her Inner Goddess.Throughout this book, King exposes the “idols” we create in our minds and the lifestyles we use to distract ourselves—which leave us feeling lost and empty. She breaks down exactly how this happens and how we can transform our pain, fear, and setbacks into power, faith, and success.

King shares details of her personal journey, as well as the stories of several courageous women, and provides practical, proven tools to truly elevate us and our quality of life. Miss T.N. King shines the spotlight on relationships, career, money, body image, social media, the “superwoman” complex, women bashing on other women—and even “situationships”!


I loved the format of this book, first are the stories shared by other women “I lost myself when…” and you can actually relate to their situations. Then come the insights drawn from the Bible, the author’s experiences and famous people’s experiences and finally a call to action and those keys for reflection are amazing. This book would be great if it came with a journal. Some of the things that stood out for me were:

1.

A common mistake I notice us women make is that we stop loving ourselves when we start loving a man.

2.

In order to get something you’ve never had; you have to do something you’ve never done.

3.

What happens when you settle for a situationship? You end up becoming the “New Side Chick”- a woman who has decided to stay by a man’s side after he had expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words and actions.

And finally my favorite:

Be attracted to the way a man treats you, before you are attracted to anything else about him.

If you’d like to read the book for more insights, you can visit Miss King’s website http://www.misstnking.com/  and pre-order a copy of the book on Amazon currently priced at $9.99

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Picture courtesy of Miss King’s website.

I’m glad that my 30 day new challenge for August has been sparked by reading this book and I made a list of things I love about myself and then another of things I wish I could change about myself and why-and looking at the two is my next step of action.

Can’t wait to see what this new challenge brings me.